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We note a central family law point concerning divorcing Illinois parents at the established Law Office of Jamie Mitchell (with locations in Maryville, Edwardsville, and O’Fallon, Illinois).

As previously explained on of our firm’s website: “Illinois courts do not factor in the gender of the parent” when making divorce-linked decisions or crafting judicial orders, not all dads escape the human bias that appear in some cases.

On the whole, though, judge’s perceptions of dads and the resulting parenting orders have transformed materially over the past generation or so, and in ways that legions of divorcing dads applaud. Fathers are regularly ordered equal or primary parenting time and are given the opportunity to be actively involved in their children’s lives.

A greater public spotlighting of fathers’ post-divorce involvement with their kids has emerged in tandem with such changes. One recent example of that is a dad-focused life-after-divorce piece recently appearing in the publication The Good Men Project.

That article contains a number of key and well-considered points useful to the millions of divorced dads who love their kids and are willing to do just about anything to retain a loving parent-child connection.

Its central message to fathers who are understandably hurting and even floundering in the wake of divorce is this: Take the long view, focusing on healing, planning and co-parenting in civil fashion for the sake of your children.

The post-dissolution journey for many dads can be bumpy and full of obstacles, stresses the project’s author. The dad you are now – perhaps emotionally torn, financially strained, even confused and angry – is not the father you will once again be if you seek to take time to heal from your past and move forward.

Most fathers who make good-faith efforts to make the needed adjustments following their divorces are able to move forward. Dads who acknowledge their vulnerability and take advantage of support groups and other resources for help are often significantly more empowered as they emerge from the trauma caused by their divorce.

Making the effort and staying the course yields an unparalleled benefit: the continuous nurturing and strengthening of the critically important bond existing between a loving father and his children.