An Open Letter to My Clients Dealing with a Toxic Ex

On Behalf of | Nov 3, 2018 | divorce, Firm News

Dear Client,

I see you. I see you struggling with your toxic ex. I see how his mutant green, venomous, verbal sludge creeps into your mind and poisons your heart. 

I hear you, and you’re right. It’s not fair that he talks to you that way. Someone does need to make her stop.

That someone is you.

No, you can’t make the words stop or the bad behavior end. You have to take away their power.

You have to remind yourself every single day that your ex’s opinion DOES NOT matter. When she calls you a bad dad, when he calls you a bad mom, it is only true if you make it true. Anything that is not true is just noise, meaningless, insignificant, noise.

Stop wasting your life listening to the noise. When you are able to treat the words, the lies, the actions as nothing but noise, they will have no power over you. You will be free.

Repeat after me:

My ex’s opinion does not matter.                              

My ex’s words cannot hurt me.

My ex has no power over me.

Take back control of your mind and your heart. Be free. Be happy.