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If you answered “money” to the above-posed question headlining today’s blog post, go to the front of the class.

Actually, the query wasn’t that difficult, was it? Financial considerations are front-and-center concerns in legions of divorces in Illinois and nationally, and they are hardly the special province of a particular group. Many divorcing couples who face dire money challenges understandably focus on equitable asset distribution, just as do ultra-wealthy spouses in the dissolution process.

It is the central contention of the writer in this linked article on money sparring during divorce, though, that the so-called “almost rich” (“upwardly mobile, top-end middle class” might also work as a descriptor) often have an especially strong focus on money during divorce negotiations. The thesis is that they feel secure, but not quite secure enough to simply resolve everything in amicable fashion and move on to post-divorce life. They haven’t hit the “magic threshold” to relieve all worries.

It’s an engaging read that, unsurprisingly, reflects the author’s personal opinion more than it reflects solid evidence based on empirical findings. The truth about divorce is that it is unique in every case. Some couples spar mightily over money and some don’t, without regard to their economic status. And readers know that, when children are present, it is the kids — not the bucks — that invariably command closest attention.

The above-cited piece does provide one takeaway that it is a truism in family law and a reminder for divorcing couples to stay focused upon during a time that is both singular and trying.

And that is this: Divorce is far from being a process that should be typically defined as a failure. Indeed, a reflective decision to end a marriage is often a powerfully positive and life-affirming act that allows for a fresh start and renewed personal journey – for both parties.

“Making a mature decision in that direction may be the best outcome of all,” says one family law commentator.