Legions of divorced individuals in Illinois and nationally immediately – and happily – note a bottom-line improvement in their lives following divorce.
And that is simply logical and, really, anything but surprising. Most people divorce because they want to. And most of them come to the decision after painstaking reflection on their married life and the dispassionate realization that their union with another person was fundamentally flawed and unworkable.
That is, they took the divorce process seriously and absent a mindset that would distort the essential reality of post-divorce life.
For most people, that life entails some combination of ups and downs. Life works that way, with divorced couple being no different from anyone else.
Having said that, though, it is also clear from a nearly exhaustible compilation of evidence that things turn out to be far better for high numbers of divorced parties across the country than they were during a stressed marriage.
That is the core point made by a family law writer in one national article touching upon post-dissolution life. Her contribution underscores what she terms “little-known financial benefits” of divorce that accrue in many marriage-ending cases.
Arguably, much of the upside that writer Maryalene LaPonsie describes is not surprising or disguised at all.
Take her point on newly gained financial freedom, for example. For many parties who suffered from the irresponsible money management of a spouse during marriage, improved finances following marriage are an outcome of expectation rather than hope. They fully assumed that things would get better, and they did.
Many of LaPonsie’s points might be profitably considered by parties contemplating or already involved in the divorce process. Company-sponsored retirement funds can be tapped early without tax and penalty consequences. College aid for kids is more affordably available for divorced parties. An individual married at least 10 years could be eligible for higher Social Security benefits based on an ex-spouse’s earnings.
The ultimate reality for many divorced individuals is that things do get better across a wide universe of relevant concerns, including financial matters. LaPonsie spotlights that fact, and additionally stresses the importance for a divorcing party to work closely with a proven family law attorney who can help identify and implement positive strategies.