How nice it would be if divorcing parties in Illinois and nationally routinely dissolved their marital bonds with civility and a shared vow to work reasonably well together in the future, especially in cases involving children.
Some impending exes are of course able to manage that, with post-divorce life not throwing any proverbial wrenches into their interactions following dissolution.
For others, though, life following divorce is not about amicability and good tidings. It is about harassment, continued control, and stalking.
Concededly, that is far from being a commonplace reality. Reams of anecdotal tales, empirical evidence, and police reports stress, though, that many troublesome and even dangerous former spouses behave in threatening ways toward their one-time partners.
And they are increasingly employing a battery of ever-improving high-tech tools to help them do so.
A recent media report on the phenomenon of “tech-facilitated stalking methods” underscores how dire their consequences can be in select instances. Ex-partners can log into apps and track a divorced or separated spouse’s location, movements, interactions with others, and more.
That ability spotlights a double-edged-sword aspect to many tech upgrades that a couple might avail themselves of during their time spent together. If one party forgets to disable a device or remove another individual’s access to it following the termination of a relationship, real troubles can ensue.
The above-cited article notes a case of a “violent former partner” tracking his ex-mate and daughter seeking to remain hidden from him through a location-spotting device he had secretly inserted into the child’s doll. There are scores of variations on that theme.
It is just a hard reality that such circumstances sometimes prevail in romantic relationships that have ended. Would-be and actual victims must of course make strong efforts to truly sever past shared connections with an abusive person, thinking increasingly about how modern tech assists might be aiding that individual’s surveillance efforts.
There are laws against stalking, harassment and, obviously, domestic violence. Questions or concerns can be directed to an experienced divorce lawyer.